The Chaperon Workbook

This workbook is written for the person who wants to become a chaperon for an adult client in a sex offender treatment program. If you are that person, if you are the one who wants to become a chaperon, you deserve a pat on the back. You are going to take on an important job. It will not be an easy job. Because of your willingness to help, you deserve praise.

You also deserve praise for another reason. The way you love must be strong. In order for you to be willing to meet with professionals and discuss difficult topics, you must really want to help your loved one. You want the best for him or her, even if it means a sacrifice for you. For all of this, you deserve praise.

As you read the lessons in the Chaperon Workbook, you will learn a lot about sexual misconduct. Sex is usually a private thing that is not discussed in public. Unfortunately, sex is the reason that your loved one is in treatment. So, we will be talking about sex in the lessons. A lot of care was taken to make sure that you don’t have to listen to or talk about unnecessary things. When we discuss sex, we discuss only those things that we must discuss. We discuss these things because that it is what it takes to become a chaperon.

If you are using this Chaperon Workbook, you don’t have to worry about being asked about your own sexual behavior or desires. If anyone talks personal about sex, it will be your loved one, who you are chaperoning.

The lessons you will go through were written after a lot of chaperons have already been trained. These lessons are based upon experience with these other chaperons, so you can be sure that the lessons will address a lot of your questions. Hopefully, you will have a better understanding of your loved one and of sexual misconduct.

The Chaperon Workbook Table of Contents

CHAPERON TRAINING LESSONS
Introduction
1
What is a Chaperon
3
How to Respond to Loved Ones Who Commit Sex Offenses
5
Who Commits Sex Offenses?
7
Why Does a Person Commit a Sex Offense?
11
Patterns of Sexual Misconduct
15
How do You Respond?
20
Forgiveness Statement
22
Therapy for Sexual Misconduct
23
How to be Part of the Treatment Team
27
High-Risk Situations
31
Dealing with High-Risk Situations
33
Signs of Trouble
36
Things You Should Talk About
40
Steps for Decreased Restrictions
42
SELF-MONITORING AFTER YOU START CHAPERONING
Maintaining the Chaperon Relationship
49
Monitoring High-Risk Situations
51
Chaperon Contract Log
52
Constant Companion
55
Watch Out for Splitting
57
Social Support Problem Solving
59
Why Sandwich
60
DIRECTIONS FOR COMPLETIING THE CHAPERON CONTRACT
Treatment Plan
65